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#012: Father’s Day Memos…Saying It Forward

In this episode, I have a special treat for you as Father’s Day approaches. This episode is a collection of unreleased material from previous episodes with guests who are fathers, an extension of Episode #9 featuring mothers. This podcast series is all about conversation, which is much more than an interview. They’re two-sided; not just one-sided Q&A. To that end, I don’t keep a list of questions to ask every guest.

Except in this case.

“Now that you’ve got a little life under your belt, figure out what that means. Figure out what you need to let go. Figure about what you need to anchor to. And use that to guide you through the rest of your life.” ~Bradley Ford

There’s one question I asked each guest. One topic that I covered with each guest. And that’s what I have in store for you here.

I asked each guest to say something to and for each of their children, so that when their children come across this recording years from now – however they find it – because once it’s online it’s online forever – a time capsule of tributes, encouragements, and affirmations from these fathers’ hearts to their children.

And this is so needed today, and this is one of the reasons this podcast exists. Given the recent high profile suicides that occupy the social conversation, despair and depression and confusion and isolation are becoming more and more of an issue sothis is my way of adding another raindrop to the ocean and trying to create a ripple of change. Planting seeds now that will grow into something of greater value later.

We all want to know we’re valued, and these fathers share that with us about their own children. My hope is that you also find an encouraging word here.

FATHERS FEATURED

Father’s Day memos…Saying it forward. Thank you, gentlemen, for sharing your heart here … for your kids AND for us to hear.

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Thank you again for listening.

Now go be you.

 


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This episode is brought to you by Molliepop Studios, specializing in lifestyle portraiture of children and families. At Molliepop Studios, we capture that special smile, a mischievous smirk, a quick kiss for Daddy, or a special secret or snuggle with Mommy…like the cover image for this episode which was made by Molliepop Studios. And sometimes even the furry, barking kind of child. Please visit Molliepop Studios official website or on Facebook and book your session today to make your own photographic time capsules.

 

 


 

#009 – Bonus: Mother’s Day Memos…Saying It Forward

In this bonus episode, I have a special treat for you.

This episode is a collection of unreleased material from previous episodes with guests who are mothers. This podcast series is all about conversation, which is much more than an interview. They’re two-sided; not just one-sided Q&A. To that end, I don’t keep a list of questions to ask every guest.

Except in this case.

There’s one question I asked each guest. One topic, rather, that I covered with each guest. And that’s what I have in store for you today.

“Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” ~Elizabeth Stone

I asked each guest to say something to and for each of their children so that, when their children come across this recording years from now – however they find it – because once it’s online it’s online forever – a time capsule of love notes, encouragements, and affirmations from these mothers’ hearts to their children.

And this is so needed today, which is one of the reasons this podcast exists. As a society in recent years, we’ve done a lot of talking AT each other instead of talking WITH each other … or in this case using words FOR another. This is missing in our society, and this is my way of adding a raindrop to the ocean and trying to create a ripple of change. Planting seeds now that will grow into something of greater value later.

Think about the loved ones we’ve all lost whose voices we’d love to hear. If only through this single method, here’s a way for these children to hear their mothers’ voices forever and ever.

MOTHERS FEATURED

Mother’s Day memos…Saying it forward. Thank you, ladies, for sharing your heart here … for your kids AND for us to hear. You speak and have something worthwhile to say,  and you say it kindly.

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Now go be you.


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RELATED INFO

Since this bonus episode contains verbal love notes from mothers to their children, it only apt that we present those mothers with their children. 8)

Daughter and mother

(left) Amanda Eldridge and (right ) Ginger Eldridge from Episode 8. Photo courtesy of Ginger Eldridge.

Elizabeth Foster from Episode 6 with her mini-me Eloise. Photo courtesy of Elizabeth Foster.

mother and children

Levi & Lucy with their mother Jenny Baker from Episode 7. Photo courtesy of Jenny Baker.

The Willis gals with Tanya Willis from Episode 5. Photo courtesy of Tanya Willis.


SPONSOR

This episode is brought to you by Molliepop Studios, specializing in lifestyle portraiture of children and families. At Molliepop Studios, we capture that special smile, a mischievous smirk, a quick kiss for Daddy, or a special secret or snuggle with Mommy…like the cover image for this episode which was made by Molliepop Studios. And sometimes even the furry, barking kind of child. Please visit Molliepop Studios official website or on Facebook and book your session today to make your own photographic time capsules.

 

 


 

#008 – Ginger Eldridge: Mother, Survivor, Honorer

In this episode, I reconnect with Ginger Eldridge, someone I’ve known for nearly the entire 26 years I’ve lived in Nashville. To date, she and I have the longest history together of any guest.

We talk about …

  • music business life in Nashville
  • the impact we both experienced knowing the late great Landy Gardner
  • getting to second base with Dolly Parton
  • doing life with an out ex-spouse
  • and so much more

She’s a Mother. She’s a Survivor. And she’s an Honorer. Listen, you’ll see.

Big thank you to everyone who has subscribed and left a rating/review like this one about episode #6 with painter/songwriter Elizabeth Foster … “Loved this conversation! Was like I was sitting on the porch swing with you two.”

“Loved this conversation! Was like I was sitting on the porch swing with you two.”

That much sums up with this show is all about. Everyday people having a conversation, telling stories of their lives, and learning new things about each other. More than an interview … it’s a conversation. Two sided; not just one. And in the social media age when most people have resorted to talking AT each other, this is an opportunity to talk WITH each other.

Like this episode with Ginger Eldridge … we go light we go deep then we go light then we go deep again then light again as we cover a lot of memory ground in this conversation.

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WHAT WE TALK ABOUT

  • 0:02:14 College survival and Nashville arrival
  • 0:09:16 Experiences in Christ Church Choir
  • 0:13:10 Getting to 2nd base with Dolly Parton
  • 0:21:14 Career on Music Row
  • 0:27:10 Discarding stuff and heavy memories
  • 0:31:30 The legacy of Landy Gardner
  • 0:39:52 Coffee the Italian way
  • 0:44:28 The legacy of Landy Gardner, part two
  • 0:48:02 Adulting with an out ex-spouse
  • 0:54:54 Stairway To Heaven
  • :59:48 Non-Profit Spotlight: Alive Hospice
  • 1:01:04 Celebrity bucket list introductions
  • 1:08:40 Importance of divorced parents staying close by for the kids
  • 1:13:16 Doing life with an out ex-spouse
  • 1:39:24 My shocking musical confession

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GUEST SOCIALS

Connect with Ginger directly on Twitter. All others are set to private.


RELATED INFO

Photos and videos of topics we discussed are shown here for your viewing pleasure. Additional info and time stamps from the episode are listed in the captions.

Ginger Eldridge and her daughter Amanda, photographed at a special moment described at XXXXX


Ginger Eldridge singing with Christ Church Choir. Photo courtesy of Ginger Eldridge.


Ginger Eldridge (on Left in camouflage) singing “Eagle When She Flies” with Dolly Parton on 1991 CMA Awards show mentioned at 0:16:04. Photo courtesy of Ginger Eldridge.



This magical music moment with Dolly Parton singing “He’s Alive” backed by Christ Church Choir that Ginger mentioned at 0:12:58.


fashion photos in front of CD wall

A few favorite photos with the CD wall mentioned at 0:25:21. Photos by Gregory Byerline.



“Gotta Go Through” by Christine Dente discussed at 0:29:57 and 1:38:35


Ginger Eldridge with music celebrities she’s met over the years. Top…Loretta Lynn, Tammy Wynette, and Dolly Parton. Middle Left…Billy Ray Cyrus. Middle Right…Don Henley. Lower Left…Mary Chapin Carpenter. Lower Right…Neil Diamond. Photos courtesy of Ginger Eldridge.



Landy Gardner Memorial Service. Video starts midway through the memorial service when his daughters Dionne & Lauren share their eulogies as discussed in this episode at 0:31:33. The entire memorial service is also worth watching and hearing.


Because it’s hard to *only* talk about this epic performance, mentioned at 0:55:47, one really needs to see and hear it too. Enjoy.


And because a conversation with me that includes music will likely include allusions to songs or lyrics because, in fact, the song remembers when indeed. Hear at 1:39:02.


An essential play for Tom Petty fans, or those of us who have yet to jump on the Petty train (as I mentioned at 1:42:46).


NON-PROFIT SPOTLIGHT

Through her direct experience in the final days of her brother’s life, Ginger Eldridge has selected Alive Hospice for this episode’s Non-Profit Spotlight.

Alive Hospice provides compassionate end-of-life care, palliative care, bereavement support and community education while serving more than 3,600 patients and their families annually (more than 430 daily) and provides grief support services for nearly 600 adults and children in Middle Tennessee in addition to training for tomorrow’s caregivers and education for the community at large.

As the only not-for-profit, community-based hospice in Middle Tennessee, Alive Hospice never turns anyone away, regardless of ability to pay, insurance status, race, religion, creed, color, sex, age, national origin, veteran status, sexual orientation, or disability.

Learn more about Alive Hospice by visiting their official website, follow this great organization on Facebook, YouTube and Twitter, and consider how you can donate or volunteer to support this great organization.


#007 – Jenny & Franklin Baker: Runners, Homeschoolers, Encouragers

Jenny & Franklin Baker have covered more ground (literally) than your average couple, whether on the road or trail running or turning their life’s boat upstream by moving to the woods and simplifying their life to amplify the impact they have on others lives. Listen in as we talk about ultra running (any distance longer than a 26.2-mile marathon…yeah, it’s a thing), homeschooling, living intentionally, female empowerment, and so much more. Another good’n for you.

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WHAT WE TALK ABOUT

  • 0:02:06 Team Baker and ultra running
  • 0:09:57 Hybrid running
  • 0:11:00 Why do you run?
  • 0:18:07 Georgia Jewel race
  • 0:26:25 Trail running community
  • 0:29:28 Non-Profit Spotlight
  • 0:30:51 Homeschooling
  • 0:41:11 Homeschooling challenges
  • 0:44:22 The War on Normal book
  • 0:54:38 The Bannister Effect
  • 0:55:25 “An Open Letter to Eves”
  • 0:59:25 SheVentures
  • 1:02:50 Pursuit of comfort
  • 1:12:32 The importance of a significant ringtone

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Learn more about Jenny & Franklin Baker at these links:
Jenny Baker … Instagram | Blog
Franklin Baker … Instagram
Georgia Jewel … Official Website | Facebook
SheVentures … Official Website | Facebook


RELATED INFO

SheVentures logoIn this episode, we talked about the trail race Team Baker directs called Georgia Jewel. I had the privilege of running part of the Georgia Jewel course, both of which were quite the adventure. First was a preview run, and the second was actual race day. If you’d like to run this great event, register here and also visit the official site.

Learn more about SheVentures, the outdoor opportunity for women to “explore the earth, conquer the adventure (and pee in the woods)”

Blog post by Gregory called An Open Letter To Eves

Jenny’s book The War on Normal: How to Find Contentment in Your Post-Baby Body

The War on Normal book cover

 

 


NON-PROFIT SPOTLIGHT

Jenny & Franklin Baker have selected Run4Water  for their episode’s Non-Profit Spotlight.

Run4Water strives to raise awareness and provide solutions for the worldwide water crisis. They are not the typical nonprofit organization: while they operate on donations and want to make a big impact in the world, Run4Water also wants to inspire others to use their talents and abilities to make a change in the world around you. Run4Water holds events and races that encourage others to get involved. They offer resources and experience to help others make a difference in the world. The organization consists of individuals from all backgrounds coming together to perform a monumental task.

Learn more about Run4Water by visiting their official website and follow this great organization on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

 

 


RELATED PRODUCTS

Here’s a list of products mentioned in our conversation. These are affiliate links from which Collected Clan receives a small commission at no additional cost to you that offsets costs of producing these episodes.

The War on Normal: How to Find Contentment in Your Post-Baby Body

 

 

 

#004 – Bethany Torino: Chocolatier, Entrepreneur, Risk Taker

Bethany is not in Kansas anymore, and she makes decadent chocolates that’ll stir your taste buds and soul like a tornado. In this conversation, we talk about growing in Dorothy’s hometown, how we were in the same building at the same time 25+ years ago without even knowing it, songwriting in Nashville, what grace is, the ups and downs of entreprenuership, and…chocolate!

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Learn more about The Cocoa Tree at these links and savor the decadent deliciousness
Official Website | TwitterInstagram


RELATED INFO

Photos of topics we discussed are shown here for your viewing pleasure. Be careful not to drool on your keyboard.

Artisan truffles from The Cocoa Tree in Franklin, TN

 

Scene from Chocolat movie from Miramax Pictures where Alfred Molina’s character experiences a massive epiphany from a small splattering of decadent chocolate. Yep, I get it. And I kinda want to do this when I see a big chocolate display.

Couture dress made with real chocolate she created for the New York City Chocolate Show

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


NON-PROFIT SPOTLIGHT

Bethany selected Blood:Water as this episode’s Non-Profit Spotlight.

Blood:Water partners with Africa’s hidden heroes to provide technical, financial, and organizational support to strengthen their reach and effectiveness to the communities they serve.

Through various technologies, the three areas of WASH – water, sanitation, and hygiene – work together to strengthen one another and maximize health impact at the community level by developing systems that deliver clean water for drinking, washing, and sanitation to communities without.

Another focus is on comprehensively and holistically support of HIV/AIDS-related needs. The entry point to this type of care takes place at the household or community level.

Blood:Water recognizes that local organizations in Africa are the true drivers of social change. They are the experts laboring to end the impact of the water and HIV/AIDS crises on their communities. However, they are often under-resourced, creating challenges in both organizational and programmatic operations.

This is why they focus efforts on building the capacity of our partners – because, ultimately, the communities need to be strong enough financially, technically, and internally to exist long after their partnership concludes.

Learn more here and get involved where you can use your creativity and passion to take an active role in fundraising, donating, and spreading awareness for Africa.


RELATED PRODUCTS

Here’s a list of products mentioned in our conversation. These are affiliate links from which Collected Clan receives a small commission at no additional cost to you that offsets costs of producing these episodes.

Chocolat [Movie]

 


#003 – Markus Garza: Army Ranger, Leadership, Advocare

Markus Garza talks openly about his time as a cadet and football player at the United States Military Academy (West Point) which lead to his service time as an Army Ranger leading soldiers in Iraq, how his military leadership skills apply to his successful Advocare business and family/fatherhood life. Fascinating stories and insights in this episode.

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RELATED INFO

Markus mentioned StrengthsFinder 2.0 in this episode, and he has shared his top 5 strengths.

  1. Learner
  2. Achiever
  3. Competition
  4. Futuristic
  5. Focus

Here are some photos of Markus Garza to correspond with stories told in this episode.

United States Military Academy Army West Point Knights football team. Cadet Markus Garza is #34, running back.

Cadet Markus Garza at United States Military Academy

Ranger Markus Garza in Iraq

Tony Kurz (L) with Ranger Markus Garza (R) in Iraq

The Garza Family in California

 


NON-PROFIT SPOTLIGHT

For this episode’s Non-Profit Spotlight, Markus Garza has selected All Things Possible Ministries headed by Victor Marx, an organization that identifies, interrupts, and restores those affected by trauma.

Victor gained notoriety with an online following after the release of a video of him performing the “World’s Fastest Gun Disarm.” His YouTube channel now features over 31 million views and 107 thousand subscribers. Because of his powerful story, humility and unique martial arts background, Victor was able to reach broken, troubled and trafficked youth in speaking engagements across America.

In 2014 Victor began undertaking additional outreach missions beyond North America to fractured communities in Northern Iraq, Syria, Burma and Cambodia. Described as a “high risk missionary” due to his work with children and families rescued from ISIS and the personal struggles of military personnel and their families with the realities of trauma recovery, it’s pretty obvious why Markus supports this organization.

Learn more here.